What's the point of communication when its only 1 way?
Dont communicate.
Some people keep saying "I dont talk over email or online", even family members.
Then, you wonder why they have email and they are always online.
And then, when you get fedup with them, that your messages, IMPORTANT messages, not random talk cock, are not getting reply, or they reply with some cynism, you give them a 1X good lecture of your thoughts.
They reply with things like "we are still a family".

Ok seriously. I had enough of this jargon.
Is there something wrong with Asian families, or I think its only my own.
Oh my gosh. They send me endless amount of money, but really, I do not need anymore money, neither do I want anymore money.

I have no problems with my parents. Just some relatives and cousins that seems to me like "pretend to care" but dont.
It irks me that people can dont reply your mail.
They say things like "as long as we know u're ok".
But then, people on the other end, needs to know that you ACTUALLY READ THE MAIL, and needs some affirmation and confirmation.

And even friends, Close friends in Sg give u answers like "I can be nonchalent online. I dont like to talk online. I have problems expressing myself. I dont take initiative."
THen, you wonder WHY THEY ARE ALWAYS ONLINE.

Look at your reply before you reply. Psychology says that it is several times more important to do that across mails than face-to-face, bcos ur reply is eternally written there. So, I have quarrelled with more "best friends" and family, then ever, that gives me half-hearted reply, and completely wrong replies, that sounds like they cant be bothered whether I live or die, and that Im a nuisance, and so on.
And strangely, when you tell them so, they reply "no, no. thats not what I mean" When, there's a million other ways, they could have replied you, to make it sound less so.

These are the very same people, that are suppose to be very close to me, that when I was in Sg, chose not to communicate with them online, but face-to-face. Bcos back then in Sg, communicating with them online or sms, already UPSET ME TREMENDOUSLY. Now, for 4 months, they literally pissed me off non-stop. So people like them, its impossible to maintain a relationship if you're abroad. Hence, perhaps one more criteria to look at is how one communicates.

Despite several attempts to tell them and help them understand... they repeat the same thing. And I reply "srsly, im done with u", then they make more effort to elaborate.
Hence, psychology talks about learned helplessness. Which is me.

God, I give up. Not gonna talk to them anymore, if that's how they stubbornly stick to communicating. Words are extremely important, especially when u cant read the other person's nonverbal cues, and their actions can never reach you this far. (Unless they send a package :>> ) And months later, u actually forget their nonverbal cues totally. So since they dont bother, to put in any effort in making their sentences clearly, then Im done with them.

With all of Singapore's superiority in work ethics and technology over Europe, I think that Singaporeans are tremedously backward in their ability to communicate.
I have not met a single problem communicating with any of these Europeans students, despite the fact that some of them cant master a single proper sentence without grammatical error. And I see them once a month, most of the time, communicate through the internet. They are just, perfect in their communication ethics and etiquette.
Or, they are not perfect (which no one is), just that Singaporeans, are really really really really so backward in their communication etiquettecy.

A Malaysian friend said to me 1 month ago "Singaporeans really cannot communicate huh. I heard that Lee Kuan Yew hired some expats to train Singaporeans how to communicate and present themselves"
As much as my initial feeling was a defensive tone, and felt insulted, nevertheless, I know that that is somewhat true.
The Japanese I met are great. The Singaporeans.... Even the European students find the Sg girls here, really really strange in their communication manners.

Seriously, I always make an effort to reply to all msn, no matter how busy. Some people have nothing to do, dont care about their cap, 2.0 cap also dont care, and dont reply.
And then, out of a sudden, when they see you again in real life, they say how much they care about u and miss u. OMG.
I have a few case studies. It would amaze you reading this.

Hence, my conclusion. My completely warped understanding of human emotions, is contributed by this completely screwed up Singaporean society's way of expressing themselves. Westerners and Japanese/Koreans are very consistent in their expression of emotions. I have no problems understanding their emotions, even if language barrier exists. Its been really comfortable. Singaporeans, on the other hand, confuses me endlessly, hence, contributing to my "strangeness" as some friends say I am, in Singapore. My "Strangeness" is simply a manifestation and reaction mechanism to the utter confusion, and frustration I face, in understanding Singaporeans. As such, I resorted to fill this emotional void, by studying psychology, choosing the easier way of understanding people from books instead, even dropping architecture for it.
Should I have been born in somewhere else, I may choose a different path, bcos their emotions are SO easy to read and understand.

Hence, also, I am still happily single in Singapore. Bcos the Singaporean girls, are an utter emotional mess to dwindle with. They hardly talk to you, and then suddenly, burst out in songs of concern, love, and, and then disappear.

Girl A to me b4 I left Norway: I will definitely bug u and keep bugging u online.
Me: Ok.

Until now, never once talked to me online. Then, once, I clicked on her.. and "I miss you" and tons of other words of concern. To make me less confused, I deleted her on msn, despite once being a close friend.

Girl B, started to follow me during the exam period last sem. I dont know why. Then everytime Im on msn, would instantaneously talk to me. And then, after exam, ask me out, and make xmas gift, and insist on delivering to my house at night. And then, when Im in Norway, disappeared. Only once, with a weird msn msg and I replied "why". And then no reply.

And, when I thought that Westeners are easy with their words, I think, Sgreans are way worse.
At least, when Westerners say it, they remember it. And do it. (Anne woke up one morning, and screamed: OMG I FORGOT TO WRITE TO JOHN LAST NIGHT. I FELL ASLEEP EARLY. WAS HE WAITING FOR MY MESSAGE ON FB? then frantically texted me to apologise.) And several other instances, with other people. They say they would, they would.

Hence, as a result, I still refuse to believe any Singaporean girls.
Bcos, as much as they are able to meet deadlines, keep schedules for their work, they seem unable to be consistent in their words and deeds of relationship.

Hence, when I say 'words dont mean anything to me'. It started long ago, in Sunny island of Singapore.

And, no thanks to Singaporean boys and girls' strange way of expressing emotions. And maybe, no thanks to their parents' and elder generations' strange way of expressing emotions.

Disclaimer: if you can read this, I am ok with you.